You want to keep learning about each other, acting as sponges to the other’s every word and affection.So, how in the world can detachment actually strengthen an intensely loving and growing relationship?He wants to have frequent sex with you but you feel there is something missing within your relationship.He’s physically present but you struggle to achieve emotional intimacy with him; nevertheless, his intense pursuit impresses you, he seems like “marriage material” and so you minimize his withdrawn, tight-lipped behavior and you allow yourself to fall in love with him.He texts and calls you frequently and he takes you out on dates.
The emotionally detached man will court you, fall in love with you and even marry you—but when he gains your love and commitment, he withdraws his communication and affection. In the beginning the emotionally detached man may work hard to win your love, affection and commitment.
Unconditional love and acceptance are the only worthwhile constants.
Choose to focus on the constants and detach from ever-changing emotions, and see your love life (or even single life) flourish more than ever before.
Life is a series of change; this includes the change of your significant other from who he (or she) is now, to whom he or she will be in ten years.
Circumstances are temporary, frustration during difficult times is temporary, and even expectations are temporary.
Take a moment to acknowledge what you hope for the future, and then release the thought into the universe. When the mind is swirling with what-ifs and worry, it takes away from enjoying this very moment. The instant you recognize what detachment really means and how it feels to practice it in your daily life, it will feel like a huge breath of fresh air.