So there, I said it: Tinder is a great educational platform.
Around one in four relationships start online now, and among the millennial generation, the number is likely to be even higher.
I’ve learned some of the things that make me tick when it comes to dating — such as the fact that I care about making concrete plans with people I’m dating.
Plus: I’ve even discovered a bunch of cool new bars and restaurants in Brooklyn that I’ve gone to on separate occasions since.
Recent years have seen an explosion of dating apps, and there seem to be incredibly niche ones launching every day. For some people, swiping through fellow singles and potential romantic partners is merely a bit of fun and a way to entertain themselves during TV ad breaks.
If you wear glasses or are into people who do, try Spex, for example. But whether you’re after a meaningful relationship or just some casual dates, there’s an almost overwhelming number of dating apps from which to choose nowadays.
In short: drop in a subtle reference to something you care about right at the get go as a litmus test for whether or not you and your Tinder match are “on the same page” ideologically and otherwise.5.
Make jokes, and realize the importance of humor in dating. Chat with people long enough to get a vibe for them. This fall, I made the mistake of meeting up with someone after exchanging only a few, generic questions.
I’ve met interesting people (including a new friend who I talk to on the regular — platonically).
But I gave it a shot because I wanted to meet someone, and, to be honest, all my single friends were using it.
For a while, Tinder did indeed strike me as a gross hookup app (so many shirtless men).
But what’s surprised me even more is that Tinder is an awesome tool to discover what you’re really looking for when it comes to love.
The app provides you an endless pool of people to date, which gives you an opportunity to explore how you communicate, what kinds of people you are attracted to and what your non-negotiables are. Sure, it’s kind of alienating and weird to swipe right or left on people’s faces — but if you recognize that it’s simply a part of the deal of dating at large, rather than some kind of evil behavior choice, you’ll be starting off on the right foot. Make reference to one of your non-negotiables — at the get-go.
And I’ve had my fair share of frustration along the way (like the guy who seemed great but told me he was still in love with his ex).