It feels like you are mistrusted, that people think you have actively chosen to take the route of most privilege without considering the ways in which you are now held at the margins by the community you most identify with.
I am new to this relationship and still trying to navigate how to move through both worlds.
Sometimes it means passing depending on the context because it's hard to play the role of educator and/or be on the defense all the time.
Even with friends, I've faced microaggressions in the form of jokes: ' How does straightness feel?
(At least for me; it was the first time I had identified myself in that way.) A year or so later, when I got pregnant, we went back in to the doctor to confirm and after we had heard our baby's heartbeat for the first time, seen that it was a real being, that our lives were about to change, the nurse comes in to do my examination (my boyfriend had left at this point) and tells me in a sly voice, ' I guess we can cross the bisexual off your chart, can't we?
For lots of guys, this is just what they want and need.But on the other side of the coin, it makes me sad that I even need to hide or worry about these things." "I have avoided telling my queer friends that I am in a relationship with a man.It's like coming out all over again and I've experienced resistance against it."I was in a new city, needed a doctor, so filled out my health history, my partners, etc.I've only ever been with my boyfriend and one woman, so it was a big deal when I wrote down that I was bisexual on that form.There are some tricks that you can see just how easy it is to date a married woman.