You’re fine with time apart and you’re cool to keep it casual. Because it doesn’t matter how much she likes you, she is going to choose the man who goes the extra mile to make her happy: the man who puts in the most effort and truly sweeps her off her feet.
If you reflect on your feelings for her and come to the conclusion that you’d like her to be your one and only, then it's time to put your best foot forward: be chivalrous, kind, considerate, and thoughtful, plan actual dates (outside of the bedroom) and show her you’re interested and serious about pursuing her.
I’m not sure if your “significant other” told you before that he wasn’t ready to settle down, but if a man says that he most likely means it.
You should run fast if a committed relationship is what you want.1.
It’s great that you’ve been able to carry along so casually but eventually feelings get involved.
If you find you start to develop feelings for her and your heart aches at the thought of her being with any other man but you, then it’s time to step up your game. But by not showing your interest, you leave her wide open to any guy who does.
But since you are in a sexual relationship, you are in a position to ask if she has any other sexual partners.Decide on what you want – What do you want from him?Do you want a committed relationship or are you fine with you guys just hanging out and without a title?I’m a funny guy, fairly wise, very goal oriented, and I’m very social. But the bottom line is, I’m just not very good with “relationships” or dating in general. I'm just working right now so I have more free time than her.