Be aware that if that is all he or she can talk about then they’re probably not ready to date.”“It is not a competition between you and the departed spouse. Give them time to adjust and try not to take it personally.
Make sure that you ask key questions, and be honest with each other.
It is one thing to be supportive and allow space for the feelings and ebbs and flows of emotion which diminish over time, but I don’t think a person should be the widow/widower’s grief counselor.” Most people who’ve suffered a loss have already built a network of friends and/or family for support.
Many will choose to attend therapy or support groups for help dealing with their pain. When you are dating someone it should be about you and that person having a shared goal of creating a great relationship.
If he or she feels comfortable talking about their deceased partner then you should feel free to ask questions or make comments. You should not compare yourself to the departed spouse. One has to remember, that a widowed person did not end the relationship because he/she wanted to – it was taken from them, and in this way is very different from that of a divorce.” Starting a completely new path in one’s life is a big decision and would cause emotional upheaval for anyone, no matter the situation.Not all comparisons are bad; they are simply an acknowledgement that something is different than something else.Most widow(er)s probably wouldn’t expect or want for you to be just like their late spouse, so there’s little use in wondering if you’ll “measure up”.If the person truly is ready to begin again with someone new they will make room for you in their heart.How can I help a widow/widower get through their pain and feelings of loss?Annother: “I don’t think that a date is the best person to do this.