Below, learn why authenticity is so critical to dating, and how a milkshake could help you find your next bae.
Alysha Jeney: With our generation being so used to instant gratification, and used to being so easily accessible to each other, there’s a false sense of connection.
You might not meet the person of your dreams, but you could potentially share an experience.
AJ: I think there are very distinct cultural differences from state to state, from city to city.
She sees about 20 to 25 clients per week, mostly couples but many individuals, too, and the majority of her clients are young — age 25 to 33.
The number one thing single millennials are struggling with?
I think with my particular caseload, [men and women equally] want to have good-quality relationships, but don’t necessarily know how to find it.AJ: I think a genuine connection takes time to facilitate; you have to take time to nurture a foundation between two people where there is emotional safety.If you don’t have that, it’s really hard to be vulnerable with someone and be authentic, and to develop that genuine connection with someone.When we unpack that and we start exploring it, building that clarity helps them feel more empowered to be in their own space.When they’re able to be a little bit more confident in their autonomy, that’s when they can be more confident in the dating world, and not necessarily [feel pressured] to force a connection if it’s not there.How often do you go into the gym, or go into the grocery store, or go into the bank and you don’t smile, you don’t have eye contact, you don’t initiate a conversation?